I’ve got this really fun friend who’s a total Groupon fanatic. And whenever she scores a deal, I get a text.

Normally my answer is, "Thx but no." I mean how many 5-day trips to Taos can a girl take when she’s got a toddler and a business?

But today I said yes to a wine-tasting lunch in Manitou Springs, a cute historic gold rush town nestled in the mountains not too far away, honoring my New Year’s resolution to get myself out of my cozy green office chair and take advantage of the fact that I became an entrepreneur.

(Hence the ice skating, the pottery lesson and the cannabis massages … but those are Groupon stories for another time.)

Anyway, by taste #4 we found ourselves talking about an acquaintance who is just as driven as me and has a similar grand vision for her life.

"I just don’t get it," my friend said. "All those things . . . the partner, the children, building a business, leaving a legacy . . . aren’t they just unnecessary anxiety? I’ve got enough anxiety just from my cat! I’d much rather just play around on my phone searching for Groupons!" she laughed.

And that’s a perfectly fair decision . . . except that thx but no.

I’d go through (and have gone through) crazy discomfort to avoid the anxiety of NOT pursuing my dreams.

So if you feel like you’re at a crossroads (or you get there in the future) . . .

. . . maybe you’re wondering if you should start a business / family / marriage or wondering if you should continue with one . . .

Let me ask you this:

Which feels worse for you … the status quo, or the discomfort you’d have to move through to change it?

And which feels better . . . who you are when you’re changing, or who you are when you’re staying the same?

Sometimes the most difficult decisions just need the right framework, and then the answer becomes crystal clear.

Here’s to being clear about what you want and what it’s worth to you,

Jenna